Continuing with Dr. Arthur Janov’s May 2016 book Beyond Belief:
“p. 17 When someone insults us, we immediately create reasons and rationales for it. We cover the pain. Now imagine a whole early childhood of insults and assaults and how that leaves a legacy that must be dealt with.
The mind of ideas and philosophies doesn’t know it is being used; doesn’t know it serves as a barricade against the danger of feeling. It is why no one can convince the person out of her ideas. They serve a key purpose and should not be tampered with. We are tampering with a survival function.
p. 19 It seems like a miracle that something as intangible and invisible as an idea has the power to transform our biologic system. It makes us see what doesn’t exist and sometimes not see what does. What greater power exists than that? To be fooled is not only to convince someone to believe the false, but also to convince others to not believe the truth.
The unloved child who cannot bear the terrible feelings of hopelessness shuts down his own feeling centers and grows insensitive, not only to his pain, but to that of others. So he commits the same error on his child that was visited upon him, and he does so because of the way he was unloved early on. He cannot see his own hopelessness or that of his child.
p. 56 All defensive beliefs must have a kernel of hope inside of them. It is the embedded hopelessness that gives rise to its opposite – hope – and its accompanying biochemistry of inhibition or gating.
To be even more precise, it is the advent of pain surrounding hopelessness that produces the belief entwined with hope. All defensive belief serves the same function – repression, absorbing the energy of pain.
p. 57 An unloved child is a potential future believer.
p. 58 No one has the answer to life’s questions but you. How you should lead your life depends on you, not outside counsel.
We do not direct patients, nor dispense wisdom upon them. We have only to put them in touch with themselves; the rest is up to them.
Everything the patient has to learn already resides inside. The patient can make herself conscious. No one else can.”
“p. 29 The personal experience stories throughout the book are written by my patients and, with the exception of a few grammatical corrections, they are presented here exactly as they were given to me.”
All of the Primal Therapy patients’ stories thus far started with horrendous childhoods that resulted in correspondingly strong beliefs.
I came across a public figure example today in 10 Defining Moments In The Childhood Of Martin Luther King Jr. The author included two items germane to an understanding of how beliefs may develop from adverse childhood experiences:
- 8. King Sr. “Would beat Martin and his brother, Alfred, senseless for any infraction, usually with a belt.”
- 6. “By the time King was 13, he’d tried to kill himself twice.”
Every reference I found tied King Jr.’s suicide attempts to his grandmother’s death. What an implausible narrative! “A whole early childhood of insults and assaults” would certainly have more to do with the causes for preteen suicide attempts.
Consider a child’s feelings of helplessness, worthlessness, pain, and betrayal when the people who are supposed to love them are cruel to them instead. Feelings like what I expressed in Reflections on my four-year anniversary of spine surgery.
Consider the appeal of escaping from this life when:
“The unloved child cannot bear the terrible feelings of hopelessness.”
Granted that it’s only the patient who can put together what happened in their life so that it’s therapeutic. Beyond Belief and Dr. Janov’s other publications outline the framework.